Scorpio Woman - Virgo Man

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.

A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.

A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...” 

- Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love 

Virgos are mental and Scorpios are emotional.  Meditate on that a while.  These two have so much to teach each other because of their inherit differences.  When these two meet, it is as though an angel met a beautiful and mysterious mortal.  A great example of this would be Hercules and Meg.  She is sexy and magnetizing, and he is innocent and inquisitive.  She will take his innocence as naivety, and he will take her negativity and want to show her light.  There is something in a Virgo's angelic head that says, "Don't do it." but there will be no helping him, he's hooked.  "Wonderboy" will lose his footing and even risk his immortality to save her from hell. This may be a little what it's like when a Virgo man meets his Scorpio...

She will fight the love that a Virgo man gives her, but in due time she will give in.  What he needs to understand is that Scorpios take time to truly open up to people.  What Scorpios need to understand is that Virgo men are picky when it comes to the one that they want, so if he chooses you feel special and know its REAL.

These two will be mental playmates.  Most Virgo men are wildly imaginative primarily because their ruling planet is Mercury.  This match will have no problem talking about anything from work, to what they ate an hour ago, to even about her pet duck Cotton that lives down at the local lake.  This is what will tie them together; their friendship.  He is pure and she is dark, so combined they bring evenness to each other.  As angelic as these men are, they are drawn to dark things.  They are inquisitive about things they don't understand.  He understands things a lot better when they are tangible, but she will be able to teach him the things that are so wonderfully intangible.  She will teach him things of love, he may even feel things with her he didn't know existed.  He concentrates on the day to day, but she will show him the big picture.  The most important thing she will have to teach him about is sex.

A Virgo man will think he has sex all figured out before he meets a Scorpio woman.  Oh my how you are wrong.  See, to a Virgo sex is a physical act.  It feels good physically.  What he may not understand, until he meets his Scorpio, is that there is also the emotional and spiritual side to it.  That is what makes it whole.  She must have a lot of patience while teaching him this because he is a perfectionist and will blame himself if the sex isn't what she expected, but once he understands they will have an undying sexual connection.  Just the sight of her will make him lose his train of thought.  Like a moth to the flame.  He won't be a huge fan of PDA, but over time he will learn that he can subtlety touch her hand to tell her he loves her without feeling embarrassed about it.  He will understand how to love with the body AND soul.

When it comes to being emotionally controlled, he will beat her in that department every time.  His purity of thought and simplicity will be something she will learn from him.  When they fight, she will go into a cold silence which will make him crazy.  He wants to understand everything at all times.  One thing he should realize is that a Scorpio woman's depth is something that no one will ever understand except for her and God.  Just be there for her like a rock, and she will come around.  She will have problems believing everything you say, because Scorpios are naturally suspicious creatures.  It can be exhausting at times always having to prove to someone how much you love them, but she is worth it.  Hang in there.  Look at her through the eyes of your heart, not the ones in your head and you will see her clearer.  However, if you wound this woman too much she will leave.  She may cry wolf a few times, but I promise you that once she has had enough, that is it.  If this happens you will be wondering why and wishing you could go back so do it right the first time.  She will give you plenty of warnings before she leaves, so I would take head to them if you want her to stick around.

One thing I would highly advise against Virgo doing is making empty promises to your Scorpio even if your intentions are pure.  Scorpios are loyal to a fault and follow through with their promises even if they aren't the most practical situations.  In a Scorpios world promises > practicality.  Remember the first thing I told you to meditate on?  Virgos are mental and Scorpios are emotional.  Think before you speak Virgo, because if you tell her you are going to do something and then don't follow through you will see that Scorpio temper which is never a pretty thing.  Her temper will scare him out of his pants the first time he sees it, but these two will have no problem talking their way out of their problems.  He is one hell of a communicator, and will be able to talk her off of any ledge.  Plus, they are more friends than anything.  Friends always make up.... well most of the time.

He will try to make her understand that his love for her is true and pure.  She will try to make him start loving with all of his heart and soul, and to make him understand that love conquers all.  Slow your mind Virgo and feel.  If you both do not reach the destination of where you want to get, I promise you that you will learn beautiful lessons from one another that you will never forget.  If you do make it, I envy you.  Enjoy your similarities and differences every day because you are a truly beautiful match.


  1. What a beautiful post Ms. Desiree :)
    It was truly heartfelt <3...written in Scorpio fashion ;) sad though that both of you and that special guy's relationship wasn't meant to last forever...:(

    I'm a Virgo Woman btw...but my husband is a Scorpio Man (which is in reverse to yours, hehe)...hope you can also create a post for our combo...Thanks! <3

    1. Thank you for your kind words Lisa. I would absolutely love to write that post for you. Thank you so much for reading SSS.

    2. I am a Virgo female with a Scorpio man. It seems like love is truly infinite with virgo & scorpios. That was a really amazing post. Thank you for putting it out there...

  2. Wow...this post fits my mother which is a Scorp (Nov. 2) and my Dad which is a Virgo (August 27) relationship to a T!...Hi, Ms. Des! by the way, I'm Kate and I've been reading your blog for a while now..I must say that it's full of good stuffs about astrology which I love <3....

    Anyways, is that Virgo guy you mentioned, the father of your beautiful Cancer children? my Gemini curiosity had me asking, hehe :)

    1. Hello Ms Kate!

      No he is not. I actually don't have children. He is definitely one of the great loves of my life, but that is where it ends. I hope your parents have a beautiful and healthy relationship. I love your Gemini curiosity! Don't ever apologize for it. Thank you for following SSS, it means so much to me. I love my readers xo

    2. I'm a Scorpio ♏ woman in a 3 month relationship with a Virgo ♍ man & I appreciate your words of advice & experience. What you wrote is relevant to what he & I are already living thus far. I can just go by what you wrote & see it all happening to us. Tonight he asked me to be his Valentine forever & I said yes. Then he asked me to seal it with a kiss ❤ We're already in love ❤

  3. Hey ! Was a very interesting read, was good to see things from your perspective. I'd be happy to write something from the other side of the table if you are up for it (virgo man here). Love xo.

  4. Im a virgo woman and hes a scorpio man
    My feelings for him will never change
    But now im just confused out my ass.

    Im tired of compromising all the time
    And he is the promise breaker in our relationship
    Meeting his friends and family was revelational
    He seems like a master minipulator and oppurtunist.
    We communicate very well
    But i noticed a pattern, out of nowhere he gets very cold and dosent feel any shame about using exstremly poor excuses to validate his change of heart.

    One day i noticed the motions beginging again. I let it take its usual coarse because he always comes back. But this time i told myself something has to change. I wont be shut out without warning without a proper reason for another year. I am not a hamster so easily amused and ok with repetition. As if i committed the most unholy act to him. The love forever in my heart attacked me with words of hate and regret. I told myself i honored respect and praised this person the best i can and here i was being punished because he has a wondering eye that needs to look closer.

    I dont understand why after all this time he thinks he cant be honest. Go do what you want to do i will always be here but dont come at me from the left and right
    Then casual come in from the front and pretend none of it happened.

    He wants me completely, then half assed, to not at all and repeat.

    We are not very comfortable or friendly at this point. But no this did not stop him from hitting me up for sex on my birthday.

    And no i didnt even receive a happy birthday.
    Another year of head games? I understand that i will never be enough. And that he is someone i love from a far.

    Sex with him used to be unworldly and now he lays there like a dead fish. I told him and he tried. But it went back to what im not accustomed to.

    When we part we find ourselves in a blissful world

    There too much or not enough
    My scorpio man and i are peeling back layers every time we reunite. And it gets dark and strange. I told myself i will recognize these patterns and switch how i react to them to ensure balance. But distance hurts me too and i need reassurance. Should i move on? I want to but dont want to

    1. I'm a virgo man and i've had the same problem with my Scorp woman. She would disappear for days under some odd excuse or the other which at times seems to be really a fluke. I've tried telling her that it upsets me when she does that but to that, she'd most non-nonchalantly reply saying that she wants to resume conversations and that all is well. Should i pull the plug or wait?

      I've known her for close to 8 months now.

  5. My wife is a Virgo and I am a Scorpio man. Very happily married for twenty one years.

    About twenty five years ago a beautiful Leo young lady saved me and rebuilt my self esteem after a long unpleasant relationship. I have not seen her since. Like your Virgo ex, there will always be a very warm spot in my heart for her.

  6. I'm a Scorpio woman and I think I've been smitten by a Virgo man. This was an excellent analogy of this zodiac combination, using Hercules and Meg as prime examples of the Scorpio woman and Virgo man. After I read it, I thought of my favorite song from that movie "I Won't Say I'm In Love". I’m humming it now… LOL

  7. This is beautiful. Thank u for writing. I am a female scorpio in a long term relationship with an aquarius man but desperately in love with a virgo man. I dont know where life will lead me, but i knknow i wil never stop loving my virgo.

  8. I loved reading this blog! I'm a Scorpio and I just ended a 4yr relationship with a Virgo man :( As you & your Virgo met is how I met my Virgo man. Unfortunately our relationship ended. As you, I will forever be grateful to him and secretly love him.

  9. I loved reading this blog! I'm a Scorpio and I just ended a 4yr relationship with a Virgo man :( As you & your Virgo met is how I met my Virgo man. Unfortunately our relationship ended. As you, I will forever be grateful to him and secretly love him.

  10. Hi,

    I loved reading this! I am a Scorpio woman (11/16) and my mate is a Virgo male (8/30). We have been together almost 8 years. We dated in High School but broke up, later reconnecting in life...resulting in our current long term relationship. In the beginning we fought like cats and dogs. It was BAD!! But as time has passed I have noticed that we argue much less than we use to. We realize that it's much easier to just stop while we're ahead because we know how ugly the situation can become. We both won't back down, so imagine what that can turn into!! I loved him when I first looked into his eyes in High School and never forgot about him. I love him still currently with all my soul. I just have a hard time with him emotionally. I feel that he just don't understand me and can't give me what I need emotionally. But like you said, it seems as if God is the only one who can understand a Scorpio (besides another Scorpio). I have been willing to help him understand me emotionally but he still just don't get it. I don't know if he tries and can't, or don't care to try do to stubbornness. Trust me, Virgo men can be stubborn also, and jealous and sometimes selfish and inconsiderate of your feelings. But are very trustworthy and great friends. They are bold when they speak but are honest. I admire that because I too am bold when I speak but I am a little more considerate of feelings. Our only problem is affection right now. I just can't figure out how to get over this hump. He claims that I make him uncomfortable to be affectionate with me because I come off mean. But I come off mean because he doesn't show me affection! Lol. So I don't know how to fix this. Maybe I should take the initiative to show affection to him then maybe he'll follow suit. But at least he is always open to communicate and willing to fix any problem I have about anything. I pray that we find our way back to affectionate love and last forever.
    Sorry for babbling...LOVE your writing on this.

  11. Im attracted to a virgo guy.Im a scorpio. I honestly have his best interest at heart. Im a medical intern and he's into public relations. We met while he was a secretary at my university campus. The thing is he smokes and has endless tattos and people can judge him alot. I see a pure sweet soul and I can't get him out my head. I want to cry.Fearful of losing him even though we're not even together. We're really good friends tho. Known him for 1 year now.

    1. If you still look at this. But yeah wild awwooooooo tatted up virgo that smokes. It sounds like he's a big time loner and doesn't care who see's. I can relate but I have to say if I were you and if you're really interested in him get to know him and in public relations he's probably always on the go so be warned. And maybe a free lance type of guy meaning like he likes to get around with other girls maybe don't quote me on that though. If he's married don't mess with it, it always leads to cheating and to alot of messed up things in life for both you's and along with his wifey if he has one. That is bluntly the truth is all I'm saying.

  12. -I would never hurt you.
    -And i don't want to hurt you...

    One thing you missed Desire, is the fact that it is the nature of the Virgo to give "empty promises", we don't know another way to give it all to the one we love. We don't give empty promises, but we also don't find it as awful to break them, for us its only a matter of love and we will never take it as such an offense if someone breaks their promise to us.

    Scorpios on the opposite try as hard as possible not to give any promises in any way. That is at least my perspective. They (You) do this for the same reason you get so pissed when we break ours, it is important to you.

    I have no strength to continue the lamentation. My scorpio told me 10 days ago that I don't exist any longer and that I should turn my head away when I see her. It was a response to a very nasty, but at the same time very truthful letter I wrote powerless to crack her shell that she created after another SO IRRELEVANT AND SO FATAL fight a month ago. The relationship is not even so long, and we are so different, so so different. I never loved anyone like I love her, and tomorrow afternoon I'm giving it all, I'm going there with a ring to give her as my vow of love and faithfulness. I want her to know I am here and I will be here and I can eat all the shit, it doesn't matter as long as I know our love is alive. I hope she can hear me, I hope she can believe me. As the moment of tomorrow approaches you can only imagine my state, so within those 24 hours if you have any word of advice, I'll be eternally grateful. I'm 30 years old and spent most of my life sad in the world in which I can basically have anything, as the fucking wonderboy. I don't want anything, I want her friendship and our love, I don't want to be the wonderboy, it has no value if those wonders cannot protect the one person I love with all my heart. From my father to "the" ex, to my beloved dog and so many others in my life, Scorpios have marked it and still I never cried as much as the other day when I read your story, only because it is so familiar. You know, it is absolutely uncomprehendable to us Virgos how it is possible to write about that one true love like this, and make peace with not having it in your life. I promise you, your ex couldn't agree with your peace of mind, at least not with the statement "happy it finished this way"...

    Thanks for reading and writing and all the best,