I have been dreading writing this particular match up, but I think I am finally ready. The last time I wrote about my ex was back in September about The Virgo Man. However, after getting five requests for this combination in one month, I thought it was the universe telling me to put my big girl panties on and write the damn post. This particular relationship was my most significant one. Not because we had some magical love story that you read about in fairytales, but because we saved each other in so many ways. I believe that in life you have multiple soul mates. I don't believe you just get one and that is it. I thought for a very long time that he was the one God put on the Earth for me to be with until the day I died, but he was actually put into my life for a very different reason. He undoubtedly was there to change me, to help me grow, and to show me how much self worth I really do have after being cut down by the other men previously in my life. He found me in my darkest time, and helped me rebuild myself. I did the same for him in different ways. I showed him true, undying, and passionate love, and reassured him that he deserves nothing less. I taught him that he can stand on his own two feet because he is one of the most intelligent and beautiful men I have ever known. We saw the beauty in each other more than anyone else had ever seen before. Just because he didn't end up being my life partner does not discredit what we had in any way. I am forever thankful of what he did for me, even though we weren't meant to be forever.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master...”
- Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
So here it goes...
Virgos are mental and Scorpios are emotional. Meditate on that a while. These two have so much to teach each other because of their inherit differences. When these two meet, it is as though an angel met a beautiful and mysterious mortal. A great example of this would be Hercules and Meg. She is sexy and magnetizing, and he is innocent and inquisitive. She will take his innocence as naivety, and he will take her negativity and want to show her light. There is something in a Virgo's angelic head that says, "Don't do it." but there will be no helping him, he's hooked. "Wonderboy" will lose his footing and even risk his immortality to save her from hell. This may be a little what it's like when a Virgo man meets his Scorpio...
She will fight the love that a Virgo man gives her, but in due time she will give in. What he needs to understand is that Scorpios take time to truly open up to people. What Scorpios need to understand is that Virgo men are picky when it comes to the one that they want, so if he chooses you feel special and know its REAL.
These two will be mental playmates. Most Virgo men are wildly imaginative primarily because their ruling planet is Mercury. This match will have no problem talking about anything from work, to what they ate an hour ago, to even about her pet duck Cotton that lives down at the local lake. This is what will tie them together; their friendship. He is pure and she is dark, so combined they bring evenness to each other. As angelic as these men are, they are drawn to dark things. They are inquisitive about things they don't understand. He understands things a lot better when they are tangible, but she will be able to teach him the things that are so wonderfully intangible. She will teach him things of love, he may even feel things with her he didn't know existed. He concentrates on the day to day, but she will show him the big picture. The most important thing she will have to teach him about is sex.
A Virgo man will think he has sex all figured out before he meets a Scorpio woman. Oh my how you are wrong. See, to a Virgo sex is a physical act. It feels good physically. What he may not understand, until he meets his Scorpio, is that there is also the emotional and spiritual side to it. That is what makes it whole. She must have a lot of patience while teaching him this because he is a perfectionist and will blame himself if the sex isn't what she expected, but once he understands they will have an undying sexual connection. Just the sight of her will make him lose his train of thought. Like a moth to the flame. He won't be a huge fan of PDA, but over time he will learn that he can subtlety touch her hand to tell her he loves her without feeling embarrassed about it. He will understand how to love with the body AND soul.
When it comes to being emotionally controlled, he will beat her in that department every time. His purity of thought and simplicity will be something she will learn from him. When they fight, she will go into a cold silence which will make him crazy. He wants to understand everything at all times. One thing he should realize is that a Scorpio woman's depth is something that no one will ever understand except for her and God. Just be there for her like a rock, and she will come around. She will have problems believing everything you say, because Scorpios are naturally suspicious creatures. It can be exhausting at times always having to prove to someone how much you love them, but she is worth it. Hang in there. Look at her through the eyes of your heart, not the ones in your head and you will see her clearer. However, if you wound this woman too much she will leave. She may cry wolf a few times, but I promise you that once she has had enough, that is it. If this happens you will be wondering why and wishing you could go back so do it right the first time. She will give you plenty of warnings before she leaves, so I would take head to them if you want her to stick around.
One thing I would highly advise against Virgo doing is making empty promises to your Scorpio even if your intentions are pure. Scorpios are loyal to a fault and follow through with their promises even if they aren't the most practical situations. In a Scorpios world promises > practicality. Remember the first thing I told you to meditate on? Virgos are mental and Scorpios are emotional. Think before you speak Virgo, because if you tell her you are going to do something and then don't follow through you will see that Scorpio temper which is never a pretty thing. Her temper will scare him out of his pants the first time he sees it, but these two will have no problem talking their way out of their problems. He is one hell of a communicator, and will be able to talk her off of any ledge. Plus, they are more friends than anything. Friends always make up.... well most of the time.
He will try to make her understand that his love for her is true and pure. She will try to make him start loving with all of his heart and soul, and to make him understand that love conquers all. Slow your mind Virgo and feel. If you both do not reach the destination of where you want to get, I promise you that you will learn beautiful lessons from one another that you will never forget. If you do make it, I envy you. Enjoy your similarities and differences every day because you are a truly beautiful match.
Healing is about remembering the good, recognizing the bad, and realizing that there is better.