The Cancer Man

You would never call this emotional man a thoughtless speaker or someone who is forgetful.  He will never open up to anyone right away.  Getting to know this one takes some time.  If you meet him when he is in one of his bad moods, you may never want to get to know him.  Give him some time, because this man is quite a gem.

He has many moods that you will get to see the longer you know him.  He is charming, indecisive, loyal, sensitive, tender, yet gruff.  Just like every Cancer his laugh his enough to make anyone laugh right along with them.  You may not even know what he is laughing about, but when he starts you can’t help but laugh right along too.  He is cautious and so intelligent.  He will say things that often leave you thinking, “How the hell did he know that?”  Sometimes he will be negative, but just hang in there because just like the tide his mood will change to positivity soon.  He doesn’t have a change of personality like a Gemini, he has lunar moods.  They are very different.  Even if he is having a bad day and he can act cranky and gruff, this man’s heart is always sweet and sensitive.  This soft heart of his can make him feel vulnerable at times which may make him retreat into his shell.  He can be blue or bright, it just depends on the day.  Reassure him a thousand times that you are his and you will see the bright more often.

Sometimes he can act a little loony.  This is where he gets his great sense of humor.  He will say something so romantic and thoughtful and then follow it right up with a joke.  He is also very good with his dollars.  You will never have to worry about rent being paid on time with this man.  He loves security more than anything.  He will pursue money in a quiet and consistent way to get his base built that he wants for you and his future family.  This is crucial to him.   He is typically a saver, not a spender.  They don’t want the cash for status; they just love the stability it brings.  Before you get irritated with him and call him a tightwad, know that his intentions are there for you too. 

You may be thinking that this guy doesn’t like the finer things in life, you’re wrong.  He likes the finer things if there is also practicality behind them.  For example; he would rather go and spend money at Ruth’s Chris for a good steak than waste it on a place where their medium rare is charred to a hockey puck.  He would rather buy a dependable Cadillac than a used junker that lasts 6 months.  He would rather buy you a large diamond than a small one because it will go up in value over the years.  See, he isn’t such a tightwad after all, just smart with his dollars.  His style is not too flashy, but there is always something very refined about this man.  He will find his suits that are well fit but on sale.  He may not always be wealthy, but he will never be out of a job.  Work ethic and making money is something engrained in their very beings. 

I hope you like his mother…  I really do.  In fact I hope she likes YOU.  She will come up in conversation often.  He may even at times compare you to her at times.  Don’t get irritated by this, it’s just in his nature.  As I explained in a previous article about The Cancer Child, she has protected him from a young age and he therefore admires her than most understand.  It is not easy to compete and encourage at the same time, but this is exactly what you will have to do with his mom.  It is a lot like how Trey and Charlotte’s relationship was like from the show Sex and the City.  She stood her ground while still letting Bunny be a part of Trey’s life.  He’ll love when you two get along nicely, so try your best.  He loves to be babied by women no matter how big a man he is.  A word of advice to him though… he needs to make sure that he eventually learns to put his significant other before his mommy, or the relationship will really end up like Charlotte and Trey’s… there won’t be one. 

He may surprise you with what a great cook he is.  If he makes you dinner, that means he is getting very serious about the relationship.  He is cultured and quite the gentlemen, that is until you stop being a lady.  If you ask him about his family on a date, he will love to talk about all of them.  Family and home life is very important to Cancers.  Photography runs in Cancer veins.  Most of them love to take pictures, so don’t be shy when the camera comes out.  It is not easy for him to find a woman that is worthy of his time, but when he does he will be beautifully sentimental and admiring.  This is rare though because Cancers do not like to be burned.  Therefore, they are very careful when picking a mate.  If you do burn hum, he will carry that pain for many years.  They do not rush into anything because of this reason.  Once they have carefully decided that they want you for their own it is almost as though a light switch goes on overnight.  Once you are his it is hard to get out of his claw like grip.  He will overflow your life. 

As a father he will do a hell of a job.  He will be very involved with his children in every way possible.  Just like Cancer women, they love family life and it means everything to them.  He will be interested in everything they do.  He will be protective of his daughter and very proud of his son.  He will be involved with their schooling and decisions that they make in life.   He may be a little clingy to them though when they start growing up and could even get upset when they start to really spread their wings.  He’ll be the one up late worrying when his kid is five minutes past their curfew.  He will pace the floor until he sees the headlights in the driveway. 

That’s all in the future… let’s talk about right now.  If you ever feel like this man is taking his sweet time in popping the question making him jealous is actually not a terrible way to go about fixing that problem.  These men take a while when making such a huge commitment because they want to make sure everything is all in line and secure.  What he doesn’t understand is that he always seems to find excuse after excuse to hold off.  If he sees that his hesitation is pushing you to be interested in dating another man, he will lock you down in a heartbeat.  That does not work for most men, but for this one it very well could.  I am not telling you to go and flirt with your next door neighbor, but remind him that you love him no matter what his financial situation.  Take care of him when he’s sick, cook him his favorite meal often, always be feminine and loving and one day he will randomly ask you to meet his mother.  That’s a big deal.  The most beautiful woman is one that is loved, and this man will love you to your core.  Maybe that’s why you’ve been getting so many compliments lately.  

Libra Woman - Cancer Man

Libras are such lovely women, angelic even.  Their smile can melt the hardest heart, their voice sounds like church bells on Sunday, and their Venus beauty is like that of a fragrant peony.  The first time that the Cancer man sees her, he will be overwhelmed, and he will want her madly.  Cancer men have a very good sense of humor, so he will use this to the best of his ability to impress her.  She does appreciate it.  After he gets to know her, he will find that on top of all of her velvety beauty she is actually very intelligent as well.  He learns that she is fair and level headed.   He sees a true partner in her.

She is quite taken with him as well.  She loves people and parties making her well rounded with knowing all different types of men, most of which have done nothing to impress her.  They were rude, chauvinistic, loud, and demanding.  They looked at her only as a soft woman, but she is just as powerful as they are.  Then she met her Cancer who is full of emotion, charm, intelligence, and humor.  He makes her feel like the intelligent and feminine woman that she truly is.  She feels safe and secure with her protective gentlemen.  He understands the ups and downs of her scales because his moods are very up and down himself.  This gives them sympathy for one another that creates a beautiful tranquility between them.

One thing before marriage happens between these two is that she must impress his mother.  He may also want to get further in his career before walking down the aisle.  He loves her so much, but the Crab always looks both ways before crossing any road.  He truly worries that he will not be able to care for her, and marriage will not happen without a solid foundation for both of them.  She will not like his hesitation on the subject no matter what the reason.  She may start to withhold physicality, or try to make him jealous when they are out.  They will work.  When he grants her what she is looking for, her sweet cotton candy smile will come back.  A word of caution to my Libra ladies; if he feels as though her manipulation is coming from a place of mal intent; he will crawl into his shell and not come out.  You don't want a cranky crab on your hands.  He has always been safe, smart, and sensitive.  Now he has this beautiful angel is telling him to be careless and impulsive which makes him very frustrated.  She must learn how to be patient with her sensitive man.  She must show him that her intentions are coming from a pure place of love.

One thing that will make her crazy is his crankiness to how social she can be.  People are attracted to her naturally beautiful aura.  This will make him very protective of her.  She may feel smothered at times, and not answer every one of his calls.  She knows how much she needs his security though, and will always be understanding of his needs.  He makes her life sweet and simple.  She just must understand that this man has many worries and fears even if he doesn't tell you about them.  It is just hard for him to be so open and honest about everything like she is.

When they make love to one another he will tell her stop thinking, and start feeling.  He will let all of his fears and worries blow away when he is with her intimately.  It is as though she is a cherry blossom floating down a cool and gentle stream.  There is not any room for anything else than pure and innocent happiness.  Their passion can come and go, but it will always come back.

These two have differences especially when it comes to the idea of something being permanent.  If they can just use them to pull them together instead of apart, they will find a beautiful peaceful love.  If she uses her fairness to see both sides, this will help them succeed.  These two are not ones for compromising much because they are both Cardinal signs.  They both want to lead.  If they can hold hands and lead together, that is when they will find harmony.  She needs him to remind her how cherished and beautiful she really is.  She is ahead of him on the karmic wheel, and will therefore have much to teach him.  She will love his naivety towards those things though.  Even when they are apart she will feel her hand in his, or smell her delicate fragrance on his shirt from their embrace earlier in the morning.  When they find their way back home to each other he will be waiting for her on the stoop with sweet pink cotton candy that reminds him so much of the woman he loves.  He will then charm her with his beautiful humor, and her chiming laugh will ring in the air.  They will both remember why they fell in love all over again.

Aquarius Woman - Pisces Man

This woman is chalk full of surprises.  She will do the most unexpected things for the shock factor, or simply because she became bored.  Maybe one day he will come home from work and their bags will be packed by the door.  When he asks why, she will tell him that she booked them a vacation because she was restless one day.  Maybe he will walk in one day to the dog being tied teal, and when he asked her what happened she will tell him that the dog was always that color and she doesn’t know what he’s talking about.  You will rarely have a dull moment with this woman.  If you want to keep her around, do not be boring.  That is one thing she will not be able to stick around for.

Pisces is definitely not as exciting and kooky as his Aquarian companion, but it is just as hard to shock this man as it is to shock her.  He understands people, all kinds of people.  They are very tolerant and understanding of all personality traits.  Pisces are very charming and curious which will be wonderful for the Aquarian woman.  They tend to be very thoughtful men, unless of course they are in one of their rare cranky moods.  He is an extremely generous man with the ones that he loves, and would give anything to make them happy.  To Pisces, worldly things don't have much value to them.  They are all about the experience that life has to give them, and sometimes go against the demands that the world asks of them.  This can sometimes take a huge toll on their career in life.  It's not that they don't want one; it's just that they don't know, or have the energy to turn their dreams into reality.  If you have a fish that found a way to become worldly successful you will enjoy the finer things in life.  Whichever Pisces man you have, the Aquarius understands that the most valuable thing about her man is the intangible things at he can give her; his love, his thoughts, his dreams, and his beautiful heart.  Aquarian women know that these things are more valuable that anything money could ever buy, because they are tuned into reality.  Even though they can be a little out there at times, they always know what is going on.  She treasures things that can be felt with her senses.

Once he is with his Aquarian for a while, he will learn to always expect the unexpected.  She is exciting and unconventional.  She doesn't go by the book; she is without a doubt a unique individual.  I am not saying that they are not practical, because they definitely can be.  There is just something different about them.  Something that makes them stand out from all of the rest.  They are naturally humanitarians, and are very kind.  Even with those traits, she actually doesn't care what people think of her.  At a time or two, her Pisces man will ask her to please the neighbors by keeping her loud singing down, or to get rid of her pet ferret that escapes to their yard every day,  or when she yells COCK A DOODLE DOO every morning when she wakes up because she was raised on a farm and she misses her pet rooster.  You never know with this one.

One thing that these two do have in common is that they hate to make promises.  They don't tend to keep them very well.  She does not believe on swearing on things, and he has a problem with following through.  She will say that she will do her best, but never promise.

When she falls in love with her Pisces she will tell him everything; her issues, philosophies, morals, religion, and ideas.  She does this to see what he thinks about them.  She doesn't need comforting and a shoulder to weep on like a Cancer may, she just wants his advice.  When she freely goes on her way away from his advice and messes up he will forgive her.  This security and patience is something that she loves and feels comforted by.  He will be there for her emotionally, but if she hurts him too much or too bad, he will swim away never to be seen again.  He does not like constant confrontation because it hurts his fragile soul.  She can also digress from a relationship, but in a different way. She will disappear in a flash of colorful lights and quite loudly.  She loves her freedom, and she is not willing to be locked in any cage.

Their sex life is quite on experiment.  She is a Fixed Air Sign and he is a Mutable Water Sign.  They may not feel total oneness right away; it will take time with these two to learn how to blend with one another.  She loves life and he loves miracles, if they learn how to blend their love making can be quite enchanted.  Over time they will find naturalness with one another where her wind blows gently over his waters making a cool mist.  Before any of that though he must prove to her that he is her friend.  Friendship is tied into every relationship that Aquarius has, and is crucial for them to feel close to someone.  Aquarius order of importance goes; friendship, love, and then sex.  She must believe in Pisces dreams for him to feel close to her.  Friendship and dreams.... doesn't sound too bad. 

Pisces greatest weakness is that he gives too much that it may hurt him personally.  The beauty of this is that his Aquarius does not see it as a weakness at all.  She finds self-sacrifice to be strength, and the root of what friendship should be about.  The greatest flaw in Aquarius is her fixed nature of not wanting to conform to what others think or do and her constant need for change.  To her Pisces it is not a flaw at all; it is actually what made him fall for her in the first place.  When they are a little crazy together magic tends to happen.